Choosing a Divorce Mediator: How to Make the Right Decision

, September 15th, 2023

Going through a divorce can be tough from the time you make the decision to the time you must decide how you want to proceed. Understanding the process, what your options are and how mediation can make the process easier, more productive, less stressful and less expensive are all important factors for you to understand when choosing someone who can help guide you through the divorce.

By following these helpful tips, you will empower yourself to navigate these challenges and set the stage for a positive outcome to a very difficult situation.

  1. Identify Your Goals and Needs

Before embarking on your search for a divorce mediator, take the time to reflect on your overall goals – both short and long term and what outcome you would like at the end of the divorce. This helps as a starting point for

You to personally understand what will motivate through the divorce process as well as help you tune in to a divorce mediator who is best able to serve you in this process.

  1. Seek Recommendations and Conduct Research

Start your search for a divorce mediator by seeking recommendations from trusted sources such as friends, family, divorce attorneys, family therapists, or even someone you know who used divorce mediation and had a positive outcome. Once you have a list of potential mediators you can move on to the process of checking out the various divorce mediators that have been recommended to you.

  1. Assess Mediators Credentials and Experience

When evaluating the mediators on your list, consider their credentials and experience in their field and how that aligns with what you need. Look for mediators who have undergone specialized training in divorce mediation and who possess the appropriate certifications and state registrations that allow them to handle your divorce in a productive and efficient manner. Review the details of their web site, what services they offer, what information do they provide and what fees they may charge. All that plays a role in your decision for the best divorce mediator for the two of you.

  1. Schedule A Consultation

Once you have narrowed down your list of potential divorce mediators, schedule consultations with them and don’t rule out any mediators that charge for a consultation. Many mediators who are very successful will have a consultation fee that they credit back to you against their services should decide to hire them. During these consultations try and limit a lot of details about your case (unless the mediator asks) and use this time to get a feel for their mediation style and how they respond to your questions and or concerns. In a consultation a good mediator will have excellent listening skills and will ask questions to help them understand what you need and what you are looking for. Discuss their approach to the mediation process and how they conduct a mediation and what tools and resources they provide to make the divorce process easier for you.

  1. Evaluate Compatibility and Trust

Divorce mediation requires regular communication and collaboration with your mediator. Assess the mediator’s ability and accessibility to ensure they can accommodate your schedule and timeline. In addition, inquire as to their policy regarding scheduling session and / or canceling session as flexibility may be a crucial factor in your decision.

  1. Discuss Fees and Payment Structure

While cost should not be the sole determining factor, it is essential to have a clear understanding of the mediator’s fees and payment structure. Inquire about their hourly rates, any additional charges for administrative tasks, and their policy regarding cancellation or rescheduling. Balancing cost considerations with the mediator’s qualifications and experience will help you make an informed decision.

Finding the Perfect Fit

And there you have it! You’re now equipped with the knowledge and insights to choose a divorce mediator who will be able to help you both through this challenging time. Remember, this is a part of your personal journey and it will have its ups and downs, but you are stronger than you realize and with the help of the right mediator, the entire divorce process can be a good experience under hard circumstances. By carefully considering the mediator’s expertise, communication skills, and approach, you’re ensuring that your voice will be heard and respected throughout the process.

Divorce might feel like the end of a chapter, but, it’s the beginning of a new one. It’s an opportunity to rediscover yourself, redefine your priorities, and create a life that brings you joy and fulfillment. With the right mediator guiding you, you can navigate the complexities of divorce with grace and resilience.

During this process, be kind to yourself. Surround yourself with loved ones who uplift and support you. Remember that it’s okay to feel a whirlwind of emotions, but don’t let them define you. Embrace self-care practices that nourish your mind, body, and soul. Take this time to dream, set new goals, and believe in your own strength to rebuild a life that truly reflects who you are.

Above all, know that you’re not alone. Countless individuals have walked this path and come out stronger on the other side. You have within you the resilience and courage to face the challenges that lie ahead. Embrace this journey as an opportunity for growth, personal empowerment, and a fresh start.

So, take a deep breath, put one foot in front of the other, and remember that brighter days are ahead. The right divorce mediator will be your guiding light, helping you navigate the stormy seas and guiding you toward a place of peace and resolution. You have the power to create a future filled with happiness, love, and endless possibilities. Trust yourself, trust the process, and trust that you are deserving of a life that brings you true joy and fulfillment. Wishing you strength, resilience, and a future filled with abundant happiness.

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